Stay Strong

Anonymous Asks:

This isn't an outlet, it's just to let anyone reading this know that it does get better. When I cut people used to say that and I used to think they were just saying it out of sympathy, but it really does, that was a year ago and I'm the happiest I've ever been now. :)

thebladeismybestfriend Said:

so great to hear :)

-Amy.

Anonymous Asks:

I dont cut to fit in. I cut for someone, anyone to notice and tell me it will be okay. I seek attention because i was never good enough to get any at home. I was told because i cut for attention im not a real cutter. Am i?

thebladeismybestfriend Said:

Who told you that?

What exactly defines a “real cutter”?

Cutting is cutting as far as I’m concerned, regardless of your reasons why.

However, the people who are doing it to “fit in” or to “be emo”? They make me sick. I don’t know why you would do such a thing to yourself just to be accepted by others. Cutting for me was such a low point, I wouldn’t let anyone know. These people who can speak so openly about it with their friends… I genuinely don’t understand how. And the people that claim to cut to get sympathy? Well, they’re just as bad.

Ugh, apologies for that rant.

I do hope you’re okay and if you’re not, I hope you will be soon!

Best of luck.

Amy.

Anonymous Asks:

You're so kind to help people out with their struggles, stay strong <3

thebladeismybestfriend Said:

:)

Anonymous Asks:

ill feel stupid if i tell him i love him. he just got out of a relationship and word for word said "im pretty sure im done dating till im 25 haha. i just wanna be single and do me"

thebladeismybestfriend Said:

I’m pretty sure he was just joking around. But it might be wise to wait a while before telling him if he only just got out of a relationship.

In the meantime though, I do think you should tell him that he means an awful lot to you.

Meaning you’re going to have to stick around for a while!

-Amy.

Anonymous Asks:

nobody needs me. im useless. and ugly, and fat. and im in love with my bestfriend- who will never understand what he means to me

thebladeismybestfriend Said:

Your bestfriend? I’m sure he needs you.

And if he means that much to you, you should tell him. Let him know. Does he know you feel like this? He could be all the support you need right now.

Please don’t kill yourself.

-Amy.

Anonymous Asks:

im going to kill myself tonight. nobody will ever notice.

thebladeismybestfriend Said:

Please don’t! Don’t do it. Please.

Why do you want to kill yourself? What’s going on? Talk to me about it. I want to try and help.

And I’m sure, if you were to do this, your death would not go unnoticed.

PLEASE KEEP LIVING. There’s someone who needs you.

-Amy.

Anonymous Asks:

Just wanted to say thank you for your blog, it's helped me. My therapist is a prick tho & I'm going to take my life. Thanks again :)

thebladeismybestfriend Said:

WHAT?! No! You can’t! Please don’t!

I know it’s been said time and time again, but it does get better. Think about your future and all the great opportunities that await you. You can’t just give them all up.

Please don’t do it.

Please say I’m not too late… :/

- Amy.

Anonymous Asks:

I am so close to cutting again... I've been clean all year but now the pressure is getting too much again. I don't know what to do, the only thing i'm thinking about how much i need to just do it, right now. I don't want to, but i still have to. I would go out to smoke, but i'm afraid i'll just use the cigarette to burn myself...

thebladeismybestfriend Said:

Just breathe. Take it easy. Calm yourself.

I know the feeling and I usually get through it by attempting to put myself back into the state of mind I was in when I decided to stop. Remind myself of the reasons why I stopped. The benefits of stopping.

When I get really frustrated, I often pick up my blade and make scratches on this little patch on the wall of my bedroom. Causing destruction to something other than myself makes me feel a bit more calm. DON’T TAKE THAT TOO FAR THOUGH, if you do try something like that.

I’d like to direct your attention to the distractions page! It’s filled with a bunch of ideas you could try to distract yourself from harming. You just need to find the one that works for you!

Best of luck.

-Amy.

Anonymous Asks:

I really need to talk to someone, but I can't. I'll always be around to listen to my friends' problems, but I can't talk to them about mine. I feel like an attention seeker if I do.

thebladeismybestfriend Said:

Yes you can.

Say this to your friends. Approach your closest friend. Ask them to talk with you. Tell them how you feel and the fact that you didn’t tell them before because you didn’t want to seem like an attention seeker and I’m sure they’ll understand. If you’re always there for them, they’ll be there for you!

Best of luck!

-Amy.

Anonymous Asks:

I haven't cut for over 7 months, but recently I've been getting the urge to do it again really badly. But I know I can't because it would upset my boyfriend way to much, and I can't do that to him again. But I can't tell anyone 'cause they'll just freak out or get worried 'cause they all think I'm better..

thebladeismybestfriend Said:

Don’t. The fall won’t be worth it. I haven’t cut for six months and I really badly want to do it again, but I won’t because that sense of failure would kill me. You should say it to someone. There’s no point in keeping it to yourself. Tell someone, they can help. Tell your boyfriend, I’m sure he’d be more than willing to be there for you! Don’t worry.

Best of luck!

-Amy.

Anonymous Asks:

I've been thinking about killing myself non-stop lately. I'm thinking about doing it soon because my friends don't really want me around, neither do my family. Suicide is becoming a more and more attractive idea each day.

thebladeismybestfriend Said:

I know it can feel so tempting, but please do NOT kill yourself. You’re better than that! If you end your life, that’s it. You’re gone. Everything you’ve ever dreamed of doing is finished. You should make a list of reasons why not to commit suicide, I’m sure you’ll be surprised!

Please do not kill yourself, people will be effected. They will care and they will hurt when you’re gone.

-Amy.

Anonymous Asks:

I'm not sure I want to get better anymore.

thebladeismybestfriend Said:

Of course you do! Why wouldn’t you want to? Surely you don’t want to be the way you are forever? You can’t give up! Always strive to get better. Promise me you will try to get better. Recovery is possible. Remember that.

Best of luck!

-Amy.

Anonymous Asks:

i just want to die. i'm nothing more than a burden on my mom. she hates me anyway. no one would miss me if i was gone. so this is my last goodbye.

thebladeismybestfriend Said:

Hey there anonymous,
Just want to say that you’ve brought this topic up with me, so now I care. I don’t want you dying. This most certainly would not want to be your last goodbye because you don’t deserve to die for a long, long time. I don’t know who you are and, honestly, that information is irrelevant right now. Please don’t die tonight. Just like all mothers, I’m sure your mom loves you too… so don’t even think that she hates you! Someone is bound to miss you if you were to be gone! So, don’t go. Please?

-Amy.

Anonymous Asks:

I absolutely hate everything about myself. I cut. It's getting worse. My friends know and I wish they'd talk to me about it, but they just ignore it. I'm always there to support everyone else....I just want that same support without having to ask for it and feel like the burden that I am. I want to stop, but I can't. I've tried..but I always come back to it. Sorry for bothering you, I just needed to let that out somehow.

thebladeismybestfriend Said:

No need to apologise, it’s why we’re here.

You shouldn’t feel like a burden, if your friends really care about you, then you should be able to point these sort of things out to them without them thinking anything negative about you like that!

Just take the time to explain to them how you’re feeling and mention that you could really use their support! You could be surprised at their reactions and I’m sure they’ll be great help!

Best of luck!

-Amy.

Anonymous Asks:

days clean: 0, how long did I go before breaking: 1 month, I hate myself.

thebladeismybestfriend Said:

Don’t hate yourself. So, you were having a rough day? It’s okay! You were doing so well before so you obviously have the strength to stay clean! You can start over and stick it out even longer, I’m sure!

Best of luck!

-Amy.